The ick in dating. That sudden, full-body recoil where someone does something completely normal and you just shut down. 64% of people have experienced it, and a quarter ended the relationship because of it. But is the ick a red flag, or is it fear of intimacy disguised as disgust?
Therapist Marie Vakakis unpacks the psychology of the ick, what it reveals about your attachment style, and asks: are we being too picky, or are we terrified of being truly seen?
This episode covers:
• What the ick actually is and why it happens
• Red flags vs superficial triggers
• How shame, projection and avoidant attachment drive the ick
• Are we being too picky in dating?
• What to do when the ick shows up
Show notes and more at marievakakis.com.au
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